A relationship counselor once said that all problems in relationships are caused by poor communication.
This is a broad statement, and I’m not sure if it’s something I would agree with 100%. But I get the point. These are some tips that will help improve your communication skills in relationships. You will see a positive change in your relationship if you stick to one of these tips.
Tip #1 Use Active Listening
Ironically, communication’s most important skill isn’t speeding up, but learning to listen. You need to be able to concentrate in order for active listening to occur. You are trying to listen and understand what your partner is trying say. You don’t want to be forming the next sentence or nodding your head saying “I know, I understand.” It sounds childish, but you must remain silent while they talk. Listen to the meaning of each word and feel the emotions. trial separation checklist
Tip #2: Be open-minded
Open-mindedness is the next step to improving your communication skills. Accept new ideas and be open to evaluating them. You don’t have to agree with everything. It is important that you get all the information you need. Do not allow judgmental-ism, prejudices, and poor listening skills distract from the truth. Keep in mind that you won’t be able to draw any conclusions until all facts are available.
Tip #3: Pay attention to body Language
I recall reading somewhere that 93% of communication takes place through non-verbal means. This is largely due to body language. Pay attention to how you speak and how your posture is when having a conversation. You don’t project the image of someone who is open-minded if you are gritting and crossing your arms, almost snarling. You can also tap your feet or fingers to show boredom or impatience. Talking and listening are the key to a fulfilling life. It is important to be open and encourage others to have new ideas, particularly in a relationship.
Tip #4: Pick the Right Time and Place
It is crucial to communicate big issues. It’s a bad idea to bring out something and then put off communicating because you don’t have the time or concentration to listen. Extreme emotional pressure is not a good way to make decisions.
Tip #5: Don’t Use Personal Attacks
Be an adult while you communicate. It is unacceptable to name-call, degrade or insult your partner while trying communicate. Arguments, name-calling or stirring up old issues or roles will result. Good communication means that everyone can exchange ideas and understand them better.
Tip #6: Stay on Track
Next Tip is about staying on the right track or staying focused on the issue at hand. When you’re trying to communicate a feeling, idea, or concept, keep at it until your partner agrees with you. Personal attacks, as an example, can be a great way to turn a conversation off track. Keep your focus on the present and do not bring up the past.
Tip #7: Use “I” statements
Communicating from the “I” perspective is one of the most important concepts in communication. You are expressing your feelings and position when you use “I”. This principle is an excellent communication tool. It’s a simple formula that works like this.
It might sound like this: I prefer it if you don’t come home for dinner late. I feel anxious and scared about what happened. I would like you to call me to let me know that you are going to be late. The speaker clearly identifies their feelings and states what they want to see happen. This is clear, concise communication.
These tips will help you improve your communication skills. You can keep your relationship strong by improving communication.